Three Things To Learn From Harry And Meghan’s Royal Exit
Whatever your opinion on the topic du jour, the royal drama offers some chunky takeaways.
There are few situations that pre-determine your future (sparkly and glamorous as it may be) as firmly as being born a member of the royal family. As someone who appreciates my freedom beyond most things, I can’t say I envy them. A dream for one, is a nightmare of another. No matter which side of the fence you stand, some important lessons can be learnt from the brave, rule-breaking, selfish, unheard-of move of the Duke and Dutchess of Sussex:
- You always have options (even if you don’t particularly like them).
So often we can feel like we’re stuck and have no options. But this is only an illusion. We always have options, even when we don’t see them, or particularly like them. Staying stuck is a choice (if unconscious). Most things we think we have to do are a choice (again, one we’re unaware of). We make thousands of decisions every day, most without thinking about them at all.
When we want to free ourselves from our current prison, we have to think outside the box, sometimes even do things that upset other people. Which brings us to:
2. You can’t expect everyone to agree with your chosen path.
Your life, your choice. Not everyone is going to agree with it, or like it. So what? What business is it of theirs, anyway? Sometimes it’s important to put yourslf first and make ‘selfish’ choices, at least when it comes to those big ones that will affect your happiness for the rest of your life. If you’re feeling stuck, and fed up, you’re not going to be much use for anyone anyway. So, in the name of something you love, desire or believe in, you may need to be prepared to go against the grain, cause turbulence or even upset someone. You simply can’t make and keep everyone happy. They will get over it. It’s you you have to live with for the rest of your life!
3. Going for your dreams isn’t going to be the path of least resistance.
The reason most people don’t go for their dreams is that it’s hard. They’d rather take the easy option that doesn’t involve so many risks, being vulnerable, ambiguity, investment of time and effort. It takes guts to break free from familiar and safe patterns, pre-determined but unwanted futures, steady career paths, convenient but stale relationships, the old roles we have in our family dynamics. So, if you want it easy, maybe stick to the safe same-old. But, if you plan to realise your dreams, get ready to roll up your sleeves and get your butt off the comfy couch. Learn to say no, set boundaries and speak your truth even when it’s uncomfortable. Muscle will only grow stronger with resistance and challenge.
Whether you go for your biggest dreams or not; go your own way or not, it’s fine either way. That’s your choice too, there’s nothing wrong with either.
